Last week we talked about how hard it can be to get your three year old’s attention. They have very important business to attend to. And it seems that most times it doesn’t involve listening very well. I mean my kid doesn’t even answer to his name unless it’s been yelled 15 times. But, lately I’ve been noticing a change with my threenager, he’ll actually stop and listen, with one simple trick!
I’ve been kind of quiet around here lately. We’ve been in the thick of the “threenager” stage. And, there just haven’t been any moments to spark a well written blog post. I mean do you really want to hear about how many times I argued with a short human about silly things? Then I thought, well maybe you might. I know I am not the only mom who is struggling in the three-year old year, so yes let’s unite. Let’s talk about how we are losing our minds. Well combat the powerful threenager attitude as one.
With lots of coffee.
To begin our Threenager Series, let’s first begin with what exactly is a threenager. Urban Dictionary says “A three year old child spouting attitude like a spoiled teenager.” Spot on.
A threenager is literally like a tiny teenager. Here’s three ways I’ve found my son to be a threenager.
When my second was born I shared with you 9 things I forgot about having a newborn. We then made it through the newborn phase and the first year with very little hiccups. But, he just turned one and is becoming even more mobile. And, we’ve been reintroduced to the struggles I had, once again, forgot about. I remember loving 12 – 18 months so much with my first. But, now being back in the thick of it, I totally remember how frustrating it can be keeping this age in line!! These are Four Things I Forgot About Having an One Year Old.
Was January like the longest month ever for anybody else? Like 42 days. Even looking back I’m surprised and how slowly it went. That’s usually so not the case. But, now we’re here on the first Friday of February. And, I thought it’d be fun to do a mash-up of January Favorites and how I stayed intentional this first month of the new year.
I am certainly no beauty or fashion blogger. I’ve never picked up a palette and I have some clothes that are older than my first born. But, I am a mom who likes to share things! Maybe you’ll be a mom who likes these things too. So, as Zuma says “Let’s dive in!” Paw Patrol reference anyone?
Could My Preschooler Really Be So Hungry If He Refuses To Eat Dinner?
Short answer. Yes.
But, read on to see what nutrition requirements that actually need.
One of my first posts, the one that really cemented my dream of having a blog, was a post about being okay with the extra snuggles at bedtime my co-sleeper needed.
Fast forward three years, and I’m there with my second 11 month old co-sleeper and I am feeling the exact opposite!
Proof that you never truly have this Mommin’ thing figured out.
My first son started to warm up to his bed around 9 months. He would stay asleep if I put him down. And, even had fallen asleep once on his own. My second son was a really good independent sleeper as a new baby. By a month old he was sleeping from 8 pm until 1 am. I would give anything for that now. But, as with my first I would fall asleep nursing him in bed. Until he became a co-sleeper,
I justified it as he was older baby because he would sleep in his bed for a couple hours to begin with. ‘As long as he knows what it’s like to sleep in his bed, he’ll make it longer and longer.’ Nope. Exact opposite. We are in the I lay him down, move away, unlatch him and he wakes up mad situation.
I find myself so frustrated some nights. Mad in the moment even. Why don’t you just sleep. You’re tired. You’re not hungry. You don’t need me as a pacifier you don’t even like real pacifiers! I’ll decide in the exhaustion to just let him cry for a bit in his crib. I’ll huff into bed and shut my eyes tight. But, my body fights against me because neither one of us can fall asleep like that.
I storm back into his bedroom. Cause a baby will respond well to a grown tantrum, insert eye roll. Lay down. And, within 10 seconds of latching on his eyes are closed and his body has relaxed into mine.
Granted, he sleeps well in our bed. He doesn’t wake up crying. And, sometimes is even in his own space. The arrangement works. I work early mornings so we need the 5.5 – 6 hours that come with him in bed. But, the sleeping stigma and jealousy’s still sneak into my brain.
The knowing eventually this won’t work.
Babies should be sleeping through the night by now.
The annoyance of a crowded bed. And, pain of a teether constantly attached to you.
I share this to say all babies are different. Your mindset changes. You don’t always have it all figured out.
M is awesome during the day. A super independent player. Killer eater. And, in the beginning stages of day weaning. As the second baby he doesn’t receive much uninterrupted mom time. (Neither of my children do. Always a mom New Years res, huh?) It’s not that surprising that he just wants to be with Mama when he sleeps.
Not to mention, with two kiddos the need for sleep and the desire to willingly bring on rough nights, by sleep training, are at a constant battle. But, 9 out of 10 need for sleep will win. As much as it annoys me in my crowded out-touched sleepy state that he has no progress in crib sleeping, I want to be awake fighting a mad sleepy baby even less.
Going into this second baby thing I figured with the realizations I had with E’s gentle sleep training that I was set. I had worked through that Mommin’ issue. I wrote a blog post for goodness sakes. And, while I do still support that sentimental lovey feeling. I also wanna say it’s okay to not feel okay. Every baby, every day is different. Raising humans isn’t an exact science. Or, a step by step process to good adults. Not even a little. It’s listening to your baby and yourself with a sprinkle of Mom blogs (wink wink) for support. It’s doing what works best for your family so your child is fed, happy/content, and well loved.
And, right now for M and my family, that means a crowded queen size bed and me as the human pacifier.
For a couple more months.
One of my ever running goals is “to get my life together”. I’ve probably said it in at least two posts. I’m not entirely organized, meal planning is a struggle for me, and my eating is far from where I want it to be.
2018 goals include kicking that sugar cycle for real. Train myself into being a runner. And, reign in the budget. I have been inspired by others choosing a word for the year, I wasn’t sure what single word would encompass all those things. Then I remembered a quote I once saw, “Live less out of habit and more with intent.”
Today I got my Christmas present from my mother in law. The Crockpot Express Crock.Their version of the Instant Pot. I was literally so excited!
I had no intentions of asking for the Instant Pot for Christmas. As, I know they are spendy. And, I don’t like to ask for things, especially if it’s expensive. But, while my mother in law was in town for Thanksgiving I had mentioned it. And, she hoped on board. And, insisted it fell into the Christmas gift budget.
As I was doing my research I wanted to find the best deal I could. Save a little were you can! I found an Instant Pot for $63 on Black Friday. I was so excited that one was almost $30 cheaper than usual. But, it looked different then I had ever seen. I thought maybe it’s just the newest one.
Nope. My instincts were right. Y’all InstantPot is the brand, not the product. Insert facepalm. I had my MIL purchase a multi-Cooker, all but pressure/Instant, for my expensive gift. And, I had to tell her it was wrong. May I please try again?
So, finally after dreaming over my very own Instant Pot pressure cooker for three weeks I found that Crockpot ( also the brand, not the product who knew??) had just released their own version for cheaper. I couldn’t find any reviews comparing the two. But, double checked that it had all the same cooking capabilities, including pressure. And, went for it!
It arrived yesterday after dinner time. So, I knew I had to use it today. This morning as I was reading the included mini cookbook I folded down half of the pages for trying.
For dinner I had planned Aloha chili. A recipe I had found on Pinterest years ago. It’s a slow cooker chili that I had done as a stove-top dinner. But, with the pot having a Beans/Chili button I thought why not try the Express Crock?
And, it turned out to be such a breeze! It was so quick and easy. In fact, so easy I have zero pictures to show you. This post was not planned. As much as I’d love to be good with recipes, this is not primarily a food blog. But, I am so happy with my Crockpot Express Crock on the first use I had to share!
Can somebody tell me how it’s already December 6th?? How we are 19 days away from Christmas? I remember being little and doing the pull off chains in anticipation of Christmas. And, how six loops would have seemed like nothing. But, now I’m the one in charge of Christmas and it’s insane!!
This will be my oldest 4th Christmas. And, the first Christmas ever for me that presents are nearly done before the 15th. Even though this isn’t my first Christmas as a mom, purchasing gifts still snuck up on me. But, with two little boys and with E finally understanding what Christmas morning means (presents). I knew that wouldn’t cut it this year.
We are, pretty much, a pay check to pay check family. Eating out and spending too much when we go to the stores together are our biggest luxuries. Which forced me into my first tip.
Start buying a couple gifts per paycheck early.
I’ve never, ever, ever. Bought a gift in November before. But, this year I got something for each of the boys the first pay check of November. We like to buy them things throughout the year, so it didn’t feel like a big blow, like Christmas shopping often can.
My oldest brought up Santa when the Christmas decorations first came out. Which was a shock, because we’ve never talked about him before. Seriously where do kids pick things up? So, I asked him how many presents he thinks Santa will bring him. To which he responded three. Which lead me to the next tip.
As I said this is the first year he’s really understood the anticipation of Christmas and receiving presents. So, we are planning to keep our Christmases simple.
Keep Christmas simple.
The theory is, that if we start off our family tradition by not going over the top. It won’t be a disappointment that he doesn’t receive dozens of presents.
Lastly, I have been obsessed with Target’s Dollar Spot for Christmas trinkets. Would I be a be a true target lover if this wasn’t one of the tips? I have been picking up little things each Target trip for the boys stockings since I started looking in November. I plan to fill the rest of the stocking with necessities. Sippys. Yogurt bites. Toothbrush. Alll the socks (because our dog eats them.)
I personally loved stockings growing up. But, I never how quickly stockings add up! We are starting a tradition, at least when they are young, that the stockings will only be for the kids.
Keep stockings simple. And, use Target Dollar Spot. Always.
Christmas can be daunting and scary as the parent. You want to give your kids the best Christmas ever. But, man it adds up! And, sometimes you just don’t have the extra dough laying around. This is how I was able to have two thirds of my Christmas shopping done easily without it having to really hurt the bank account. Although, the thing that is absolutely most important as you are preparing for Christmas giving; is that you do what you can.
Do what you can.
Giving is a blessing. It’s a joy to give joy to others. But, giving doesn’t look the same for everybody. And, that’s okay! If you’re a family that can splurge, sweet. If you’re a family who doesn’t have anything extra, you’re not alone. Show your kids the true meaning of Christmas regardless of how much money you spend on the presents under the tree.
It’s officially the holiday season. The time of giving and cheer. Over eating. And, growing waistlines. Ugh the worst right? Why does good food have to be so bad?
I don’t know about you, but it’s annoying that on top of everything else going on during the holidays, I have to worry about weight. Granted I am far from the fitness level I once was, so truthfully it’s not as big of a concern anymore. It’s just that has been put on the back burner. Of somebody’s else’s house. Anyone relate?
But, I have found two little perks in my house that help keep me more on track. Without even knowing it. My children! Yup, if you’re looking for holiday weight control your children may be all you need. And, here’s why!