25 lessons I’ve learned after surging middle school, heartbreaks, deployment, and family loss. 25 Things I’ve Learned On My 25th Birthday.

Today is my birthday! Which isn’t quite as exciting as it used to be. Now, it’s just another year older. And, closer to lying about your age. As silly as it is, all of my adult life, in my head I’d always thought “no way I’m actually this age. Aren’t I like 18?! Who put me in charge??” But, as I come into 25 I actually feel like a grown up. Like okay 25 is the real deal. As completely un grown up as that sounds.

With this new-found sense of adult. And, in honor of the big 2-5. I want to share 25 things I’ve learned on my 25th birthday!

25 lessons I’ve learned going into my 25th birthday!


1. Just breathe. No matter the stress my Mom has always reminded me to just breathe.

2. Grown ups have to clean the entire house before leaving on a trip.

3. High school really does fly by.

4. In the moment things always seem worse than they are.

5. Beets are just as gross as I remember as a kid.

6. Thai food and sushi is actually pretty delicious.

7. There are so many more bills than you realized as a kid.

8. I am strong enough to deliver babies with zero medication.

9. The ring of fire is very real.

10. Nobody knows the number you read on the scale. But they can see your confidence level and how your clothes fit.

11. Sometimes it’s necessary to do nothing.

12. Cancer doesn’t discriminate.

13. Faith gets you through terrible, awful, unfair things.

14. Home really is where the heart is.

15. That first heartbreak really messes you up. But, man that forever love heals you in ways you didn’t know you needed.

16. Marriage isn’t a fairy tale but there’s so much Beauty in the mundane.

17. Everybody deserves grace. Especially yourself.

18. Everyday may not be good, but there is good in every day.

19. Smiling makes a huge difference.

20. You are in charge of your attitude and your happiness.

21. Days can be long, but the years are so short.

22. Montana really is the last best place on earth.

23. I can do hard things. Like survive a deployment and drive a Uhaul.

24. You can have more than one best friend. But, quality is so much better than quantity!

25. 25 is really not as old as you thought growing up, I’m just now feeling like an adult!

As I welcome in this new year. I’m so thankful for the life that I have. That I was blessed with a loving and supportive family as a kid. Friends who made dramatic middle school and high school fun. I’m thankful that the heart breaks healed, and weren’t as bad as they felt. I’m thankful that a bad coffee brought my husband into my life. That I have the privilege and blessing to raise children. And, experience that heart bursting full body love.

This year I will continue to work on me. I will give my children and my husband grace when my first instinct is frustration. I will give myself grace when the scale doesn’t move. Or, I just need to sit instead of the dishes for the 4th time in a day. I will smile at everyone I see. Actually finish a book. Eat my vegetables. Go the gym. Laugh until I cry. Try things that scare me. And, always be present.

Here’s to the mid twenties!🥂

25 lessons I’ve learned going into my 25th birthday: